Secret Formulas

Everyone has been asking me the same question when it comes to relationship: What's your secret to your 8-year-relationship (coming to nine years this August *wink*)?

It's my last day of school, I'm overjoy and feeling generous. After reassessing my long-term relationship as well as the ups and downs that Chean and I have been through, I've listed down five secrets that I think are by far the most important things for us, girls, to avoid.

(Well, I don't care whether you agree on or not, I'm just speaking from experience. I know some of you may have greater thoughts, I'm just sharing, and it's my blog after all. Don't be offensive, ok.)


#1 Don’t nag.

You know how annoying it gets when someone unstoppably repeating the same phrases over and over again until those phrases deep-seated in your mind in a subconscious way. It’s brutal and abusive; it doesn’t matter if you’re doing it with perfectly holly intention or if you deceivably think you’re not naggy at all (hey, repeating the same phrase more than 3 times is often considered naggy). He’s a grown man; let him figure it out by himself. Trust me, he’s not going to listen anyway, go save your energy for something that’s more promising and beneficial, say, a pampering bubble bath follows with a soothing facial mask. Ahhhhhh…


#2 Don’t gossip.

Your 365 days efforts on creating the last-best-girlfriend-on-earth image will eventually down to drain when you start gossiping, not those entertainment gossips you found on Huffingpost.com (those are very good ice-breakers in fact, I highly recommended) but those badmouth-people-behind-their-back kinda things. You will either: 1) totally lost your creditability, 2) give him a chance to see you as a green-eyed monster, or 3) both. So, be nice, not only to others, but also to yourself.

#3 Don’t cry (not too often, save the trees please)

Ok, this is a reminder for myself obviously. I’m an Aquarius, what do you expect! But seriously, tears are the most powerful weapons. With it, you can make or break a relationship. Use it wisely and remember not to threaten your man by tears even if that’s the only way to get your first Hermes.


#4 Don’t speak, Listen.

Guys need a listener more than a speaker honestly. When he is feeling a bit low or having mini-meltdown, try to be a good listener, I’m sure he will appreciate that more than a three hours free lectures.

#5 Don’t be emo.

This is just to make this whole secret formulas thingie looks more rational and more pro, also to show that I do employ critical thinking skills here. However, I truly understand it is very hard (nearly impossible, to be precise) for girls not to be emo because pre-menstrual symptoms are the god-given excuse; it’s a total waste if we do not fully leverage that to our advantage. Guys, since we are committed to be the nicest girlfriends already, you can’t just sit back and do nothing right? A little give and take goes a long way ^________^V

As I said, I'm feeling generous today, since I'm showing the hairband already I might as well portray the versatility of the hairband.


I use it as bracelet sometimes.


I bet you saw me wearing it as a necklace before too.

Ok lah, enough for today, gonna end this post by bribing you with flowery words and wishes:

Wishing all couples, bachelors, bachelorettes, and those who are planning to dive in a serious relationship or those who accidentally fall in the love trap a very sweet and loving journey ahead.



Best of luck,
Bev